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Brunner & Associates, Inc., a consulting firm specializing in helping organizations and individuals with strategic planning, coaching, and other organizational and management issues. We also provide facilitation services to organizations and groups, helping them to address issues and reach agreement on important matters.

 

Thu

01

Aug

2019

Simple Wisdom Tip #93: Loyalty to the Absent

It seems to be common practice in organizations for employees to complain about a boss or fellow staff member behind his or her back.  Rather than respectfully confronting someone, it’s easier to tell someone else about it, send that person a snippy email (and make it worse by copying others) or complain to the HR unit.  This is destructive and actually cowardly behavior.  The right approach – at least most of the time – is to go directly to the alleged offender and talk it out.

 

I believe it was Stephen Covey who coined the phrase “loyalty to the absent”.  In other words, not bashing the individual who is not currently in the room.  Imagine what others might think who hear Harry bash Sally.  It might occur to them, “I wonder what Harry is saying about me when I’m not present.  Hmm.”  The solution, of course, is to find ways to constructively confront the other person.  Only that has the potential to bring health and healing to a situation.  Give it a try.

 

 

 

Mon

01

Jul

2019

Simple Wisdom Tip #92: A Gentle Answer Turns Away Wrath

I’ve been thinking a lot about our communication skills lately and, overall, I believe that we do a pretty poor job.  It’s amazing how our initial response to someone sends the conversation in a positive or, more likely, negative direction.  That leads me to one of my favorite proverbs (15:1), “A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

 

How often do we respond to someone in less than ideal circumstances by saying – or writing – something that is not well thought out and lands on that that person the wrong way?  It usually gets worse from there.  My counsel, then, is for us to always strive to think before we speak and to give “gentle” answers rather than responding rashly.  It takes discipline but I believe it will pay significant dividends.  Why not give it a try?