I recently heard from a woman with whom I’ve been working. She is weighed down with thoughts of all of her past errors in judgment about a failed marriage with an abusive man and so on. Another person is kicking himself for stupidly marrying a woman impulsively and is now troubled by disputes over their son and having more time with him. While these two instances happen to be about marriages, the challenge is the same – fretting over past mistakes.
My thought is that we should learn all we can about why we made such mistakes and resolve to be wiser going forward. Having said that, I love the expression: “Let’s give up all hope of a more perfect past.” In other words, we can’t change it so let’s learn to do better in the future and move on. The rest of our life is ahead of us.
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