I’ve talked with some folks recently who keep bringing up troubling things that happened years ago. Sometimes, we all spend time reliving frustrating past interactions and wishing somehow they had been different. This is unhelpful! Can we change what has already occurred? Of course not! But we can learn from the past and apply what we’ve learned to actively shaping a better future. I love what my friend Don Dusenbury says to help folks become more future oriented: “Let’s give up all hope of a more perfect past.” Amen. It is more productive to use our energies to strengthen relationships and habits going forward rather than living in the past.